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Monthly Archives: September 2018

Get a Boyfriend Effectively

Get to Know Men Even Better

Once you already found a prospect who also shows great interest on you, give him the chance. Try to know him even better by talking to him. Nevertheless, make sure that you do not sound like you are hunting for a boyfriend. It will be an awkward thing on you, right? Guys may also start to stay away from once they notice that you are looking for a boyfriend that is why you mingle on them. Remember not to be deceived by their looks. There are so much interesting things from men apart from their physical appearance, of course.

Be Sure You Are Eyeing on a Single Man

If you do not want to get in any trouble, then you have to make sure that you are talking to a single man. If he is currently in a relationship, all of your hair strands might be pulled by his girlfriend. Can you picture out how embarrassing is that? You can observe his ring finger if he is already married, or simply ask him if he is currently in a relationship. Even so, you should do it without any amount of malice. Just try to be casual upon asking such question.

Mingle with Men

If men do not chase you, then why not chase after them. This does not mean that you have to do stalking on the guy that you really want. What is being pertained here is you should mingle with men. This is not as scary as you think it is. However, you have to remember that being fake will not bring you anywhere. You have to be yourself as much as possible. Have fun with men and show they who you really are. Just in case you don’t know, most men like those women who are not pretending to be somebody. They also love easy-going women, whom they can talk to with some interesting topics.

Avoid the Most Common Swinger Dating Mistake

There are three obvious options for closing and moving on to enjoy recreational sex:

  1. Simply proposing an immediate commencement of sex here and now
  2. Proposing to meet somewhere else at some other time to have sex.
  3. Agreeing a date to go to a swinger club or private sex party together.

Which one of these closes to go for will be in part dictated by the circumstances of the meeting. Foe example, the have sex here and now option is obviously not going to be available in most public meeting places. On the other hand, for a meeting taking place at a sex party, closing in this direct way is usually the best option.

Closing Sex Party Chat

Although you might think it is much easier to avoid the forgetting to close mistake when the chatting-up swingers at a sex party, it still frequently happens. Over many years of attending swinger parties I have witnessed countless examples of people letting golden opportunities to enjoy threesomes and foursomes slip by simply because they failed to close conversations.

Let me describe one very typical example of this situation. Two couples engage themselves in highly flirtatious conversation. Both females are dressed (or undressed) to thrill. Both couples, (male and female partners alike) make it absolutely clear they are genuinely enthusiastic about enjoying their first ever group sex experience. They are keen to do a full swap and the sexual chemistry seems right from all four perspectives. The simple thing would be to close the conversation with a straightforward proposal like, “Are we ready to try the playroom out then?” But instead of this happening, all four get sucked into extending the conversation until it begins to die and degenerate into something that is no longer exciting or flirtatious. At this point someone makes an excuse to move on and the chance of swinging has gone for good.

The majority of couples attending swinger parties are only interested in partner swapping sex. This fact makes it very likely that a single male who fails to close the conversation with a couple who enjoy MFM threesomes, could easily mean missing out on the only opportunity that the party offers. This being the case, the guy has not only blown his chances of swinging with the couple he has been chatting up but he has effectively blown the whole party and might just as well go home!

Get a Girl to Text You Back

The whole idea when you send her a text should be to get some kind of response. Girls are different from guys because they are using texting as their main source of communication with their friends and family.

They are texting all the time, so it comes naturally for them to text with you too. You are probably just a friend, at least that is where you are right now but you need to move from text buddy to boyfriend. It is not easy unless you read my text flirting tips below.

There are 3 basic rules to get a girl to text you back:

1. Ask questions. Do not be afraid of asking her questions. Before you begin asking her questions though, you should introduce yourself first. If you want to start your texting slow a nice How are you? will work just fine.

2. Entertain her. Girls get tired a lot earlier than guys, so if you want to ask her out on a date, one of the key elements that will grant you success is that you will stand out from the rest of the competition, which in this case means other guys because if you can make her laugh, that will make her comfortable and she will be more inclined to accept your request. Crack a joke to make her laugh. If you can not think of one when you text her, find one on the Internet.

3. Make her interested in you. Tell her something that happened at the night where you met each other for the first time. If it’s a mutual experience, it’s even better!

There are things you should avoid though when you text her. Don’t be texting her and call her sweetie, honey or some other pet name too early. You will come across as needy and she will run the other way.

Using explicit language is not okay either. Some guys think it is a way of showing her that they are not interested to just be friends. This will make her run the other way too unless you have been intimate already.

Another tip: No pictures of your private parts either or you can end up on a different kind of “date”, the one that includes a lawyer and a judge.

Ambiguous language is fine after a while. I recommend that you wait for a while, at least until you have made it clear that you are not interested in her as a friend and also so you do not seem to eager or a complete jerk.

Mixing some more serious questions and adding some humor too works wonders. You should strive for being perceived as trustworthy and serious yet with a great sense of humor in order to get her out on a date.

Another thing as you might have noticed when you read through this article: I do not use any abbreviations at all and I am very keen on using proper English grammar. The same applies to texting. Do make use of your knowledge of English grammar and avoid contractions too.

Patience is key but if you don’t take action, she will get tired of you and you will become reduced to her “text buddy”. Acting to “cool” can also be devastating.

About Single and Waiting

I want to make a suggestion that perhaps this man is chosen for us by God and this chosen King will come when the Queen is really and truly ready. Just because we are tired of the single life, we feel like we are ready to settle down, we are in love or have met the man of our dreams does not mean we are ready for the purpose that God intends us to execute as a match for His chosen Boaz. We need to be open and ready to receive this man, emotionally healthy so that we have something to offer. Here are a few things to consider while waiting for your future hubby to arrive:

#1 Stop blaming him for not being able to fulfill your need to get married just because you feel you are ready! Everything happens for a reason and maybe the reason that you are waiting is because you are not as ready as you think.

#2 Dig deep. Take a look at yourself and ask if there is anything that you can work on to make yourself the very best you there is to offer. Are there any childhood troubles that haunt you or hold you back? Are there secrets that you have never discussed that have negatively shaped you into who you are today? Did you pick up a couple of undesirable traits from your parents that you wish you hadn’t? What about past relationships that you still hold resentment or shame about? Now is the time to reflect and face any demons or excess baggage that you carry. Try counseling or therapy and prayer to help you talk about it. This will not be easy, but God is watching, and sometimes He won’t allow you to move forward because He needs you to drop some things from your past. These things can get in the way of the role He needs you to play paired with your husband and your purpose. Your marital stagnation may not be Boaz’s fault at all. Your future hubby is going to need a helpmate not a patient.

#3 Have you ever really listened to the lyrics of the song “Bag Lady” by Erykah Badu? STOP RIGHT NOW and YouTube it. It’s quite deep and the message is clear. The bag lady portrayed in the song isn’t carrying physical baggage but the emotional kind. She states “Bag lady you gon’ miss your bus, you can’t hurry up, cuz you got too much stuff”, “one day, he gon’ say you crowding my space”. The lyrics elude to the fact that carrying too much baggage will delay life progress, slow you down from establishing successful relationships. It can get in the way of a current relationship, creating doubt by your mate that there is enough room for him along with your emotional baggage. Spend this time of waiting, reflecting and challenging yourself to learn more about you and face the tough stuff BEFORE you bind your man into marriage.

#4 It doesn’t have to be that deep. If in review of yourself your findings say that you are not emotionally challenged but yet Boaz is still not here, then use the time to check off a few bucket list items. Take yourself out of your comfort zone and amaze yourself about what you thought you could never do. Experience something new, discover new things.

#5 Last but not least Volunteer! Often times when you take the focus off of what you don’t have and put it into helping others, God will begin to answer your needs (this is how I met my husband).