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Category Archives: Relationship

How To Keep Conversation Going With A Girl

Talk of Interesting Stories

Always have a story in mind. Don’t just show up to a date or call someone on the phone and not have something to say. Look online if you don’t have a story, and try to find out something cool or unique. It can be funny, it could be odd, it could be something you saw on the way to see them etc. The key is to have a lot of anecdotes and stories that help you continue talking. Now, when you talk about things, you can follow up with another question, or just ask about their day etc. The key is to ensure that they see you’re confident, and in return they help you with a bit of conversation as well. You shouldn’t try to force the process of learning how to keep conversation going with a girl, instead, let things come through naturally.

Take Her Somewhere Interesting

One way to ensure that you are figuring out how to keep conversation going with a girl, is to take a girl somewhere interesting. Take her somewhere she’s never been, and have conversations about where you are, where you want to go, and so much more. For instance, go on a day hike to a romantic overlook. Doing so will have her opening up to you, and will no doubt help you get along better with them. Try to find spaces where conversation is critical, and not too loud. A loud and noisy place will not give you the same clearance. Take her somewhere nice, and you’ll find a great deal of positivity comes through.

Ask Questions About Them

The first thing that you should think about is simple, ask questions about them. You should be asking about their life, routine, and more. Don’t just ask about the mundane, think about other things that they may want to answer. Do not go straight to personal things, but rather open-ended items. Ask about a good memory they have from childhood, or what makes them smile today. Make them think about positive things in their lives, and try to follow up with things that you like from your childhood and good times. The key here is to get them to talk about themselves, and get comfortable with you. When you focus on how to keep conversation going with a girl, you need them to feel like you’re a good listener.

Creating a Positive LDR

Keep your Skype or phone call dates. Cancelling on your partner might imply to them, they are an afterthought or just an alternative if nothing better is going on. Keep your scheduled Skype/phone calls as you would a date. After all, you are dating your partner right? Make sure you inform your friends or family of your plans to spend the evening talking to your partner and that you are unavailable at that time. If you need to cancel for an emergency, let your partner know so they don’t feel stood up.

Communicate about anything and everything. Be honest about how you are feeling, share what you are passionate about and what activities you are currently involved in. Talk to your partner with video chat, instant messenger, email. Write an old fashioned letter to your lover as a surprise or a romantic gesture. Send your partner little gifts in the mail you think they would enjoy. It is the little things that let them know you are thinking of them during your everyday when you are apart.

Visit each other and never cancel them unless it is an emergency. Refusing to commit to an agreed visit or cancelling on your partner for alternative vacation can cause irrevocable damage. By staying committed to your visits, you will demonstrate to your partner your desire to be with them on an everyday basis in the future. If you no longer feel the relationship is working out or have some fear about visiting, discuss this issue with your partner instead of cancelling on them and lying about the reason. Resolving these issues can help you reevaluate and strengthen your relationship.

Split the costs of visits and discuss finances with your partner. If you live on opposite ends of your country or even the world, finances need to be discussed about visits and preparation for your future. Is your fiancĂ© from a country where they don’t make as much money as you? What are they trying to help pay for in terms of visits? What do you each expect from the relationship in terms of finances in the future? Discussing the financial aspect of your relationship helps to lay a foundation for future expectations, agreements and commitments that you seek in your partner.

Discuss where your relationship is headed and your common goals. This helps each partner to have a sense of what they should be working towards making your relationship a success. This is especially important in intercultural long distance relationships. What are you both seeking in life? What are your expectations? The natural conclusion should be that at some point you will begin to live together and even marry. Who is willing to relocate? Are you both willing to relocate to a mutually agreeable location? Finding a common ground between cultural differences is a key to success in intercultural relationships as it will prevent many arguments in the future.

Ways to Be a Better Girlfriend

Be open and honest

If there is something going on in your life that is concerning you and your partner asks what the problem is, you should simply tell him. Try to let him know what you need and what you think. It will typically benefit to avoid a situation that leaves him making guesses to try to find you what the problem is.

Be attentive

There is a very noticeable difference when it comes to being clingy and being attentive when out and about. It is best to avoid being overly clingy because this will give the impression that you are very needy. If you are in a happy relationship there shouldn’t be any need to prove to others that you are together. Additionally, it is important to avoid flirting with your partner’s friends.

Don’t hassle or argue

Make sure to avoid getting in a situation where you regularly hassle or argue with each other. In most situations the other person will simply tune out when they start to get nagged.

Respect each others space

Most men don’t want to be a constant companion or always be open to discussing their feelings. If you try to discuss his problems when he isn’t ready or want him to be with you all the time, there is a risk that you may simply push him away. It can benefit to simply be patient and leave him the time to start a conversation that relates to private issues. Take things slowly to give the relationship the time it needs to develop naturally.

Don’t attempt to change him

It isn’t likely to help a relationship if you want to change your partner. It is more practical to accept him as he is. If you aren’t happy with things like his occupation, what he says, or the way he dresses, then he isn’t likely to be the right one for you. When you partner accepts you without wanting to make changes, you should be willing to be just as accepting.

Find Your Soul Mate

Re-Position Yourself.

Instead of going on a hunting expedition, think about repositioning yourself. Now God is the master strategist and can maneuver like no other. Still, being in the right place doesn’t hurt. What places do you frequent? Are they appropriate? I, for example, know when I don’t fit. It creates an uncomfortable feeling. What is more, are you hiding like a hermit? Making yourself scarce will cause you to miss the divine connection.

Scrutinize every encounter.

Did you notice that Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz stuck to her mission while traveling down the yellow brick road? She encountered three different men – the lion, the scarecrow, and the tin man. Each male needed something. Guess what? Dorothy assessed their situations, she encouraged, she provided assistance but remembered the goal. All in all, Dorothy returned to Kansas.

Similarly, we encounter different men on this journey called life. They need encouragement, insight, or just someone to listen. It’s okay to help; God created women to nurture. However, avoid giving more of yourself than necessary. Dorothy knew what to give and what to withhold. Do you?

Consequently, choosing the wrong road gives rise to confusion and delays. So, complete the assignment then return to the mission. You can’t afford to muddy the water. The stakes are too high.

Be anxious for nothing.

Desperation equates to anxiousness, and my Bible says to be anxious for nothing. Worry along with doubt make you crazy. You start thinking and believing the wrong stuff. “I’m too old. Time is running out.”

At length, you decide to take matters into your own hands. Instead of making progress, nevertheless, you end up going five steps backward. A word to the wise is sufficient. Desperation is a dangerous perfume to wear. Aside from giving the wrong scent, it doesn’t become you.

Grow your faith.

Simply put, this tip is crucial. Why? Growing your faith impacts every aspect of your life – not just receiving a soul mate. Faith goes the distance. Likewise, you must commit to go the distance. Since faith comes by hearing and hearing, saturating yourself in the word is essential.

Finding Love

Step 1: Get a pen and paper, whiteboard, or notebook on your device, and write down the 10 qualities that are most important to you in a partner. And remember, this is to help you move forward, so no cheating! For example, “attractive, tall, green eyes, black hair, athletic” does not count as one quality but 5. And “kind, generous, loyal” is 3 qualities, not 1. Take your time writing down the 10 qualities. These are the 10 qualities that you want more than any others, so again, no cheating. Keep it to 10.

Step 2: Now, scan this list of 10 qualities that you have written down. Think about how you feel about these qualities. Then be very strong and let go of 5 of them. Yes, I know this can be hard, but do it anyway. There is a reason for that. This leaves you with 5 qualities that are the most important of all to you in a partner.

Step 3: OK, now for the really interesting part. Cut the list down to 3 qualities and no more. Take your time, you can experiment with it, think how you feel, and look at the list until you have whittled it down to 3 qualities. These are the qualities that are important for you in a partner. This focuses your attention, and it is said that we can usually only find a partner that satisfies 3 qualities that are important to us. For example, if it is “Honest, Loyal, and Black-haired”, then you know not to waste time on dishonest people (do they cheat on their tax, or tell lies in social groups in order to make themselves seem more interesting?), disloyal people (are they disloyal to their employer or cheated on their partner, for example?), or people with blond hair (because that would not keep your interest looks-wise long-term). Of course, these are just 3 qualities I plucked out of thin air with no prejudice to blond, red, brown, black, or bald-haired amazing partners but you get the idea.

Ways to Impress Women

  • Just be yourselfInstead of imitating someone, it is better to be just the way you are. You don’t need to do a lot of things to impress us; all you need to do is be who you are. We like men who know how to express their emotions and put their innermost feelings into words. Unless you do that, you can never have the right kind of a woman walking by your side.
  • Don’t be too hard on yourself The worst thing that most of the men do is strive hard to impress women. Don’t do that – all you’ve got to do is keep it simple and learn how to respect us and you would gain our attention. Defend us, if you are given the opportunity and if your stand makes a different in our lives, and be with us, when we need you.
  • Don’t try to impress us I know a lot of men do this – they try to impress the ladies with their style, fashion and a lot of such materialistic things. Instead of playing the impression game, which does not last for long, try to be casual and keep it low. If a woman falls in love with you for your style, remember, she has to see you in your informal outfits at home in future, when you both plan to settle down together.
  • Express yourself in bedLet’s face it – most of the women now know what they want from their men. They are open and now believe in communicating about what they want in bed. If you have a woman in your life and you want to sustain her, you have surely got to be good in bed.
  • Keep her satisfied I don’t say that intimacy is the only thing between two lovers, but it is obviously one of the most important things that allow two people to maintain love between each other. Keep her relaxed and satisfied in bed and see the glow on her face.

 

Be Successful With Women

Offering consistent respect is the first area of importance, one that should be considered a basic human right and a mandatory condition for any interaction. Regardless of one’s title, gender, religious adherence, sexual preference, socioeconomic or political place, such respect allows for healthy boundaries of physical safety and genuine intellectual and emotional consideration of another’s contribution. I’ve found it quite natural to extend this same level of respect to everyone that I’ve worked with (including of course, women) and that this same level of respect was reciprocated. As a result we were able to create a work-life culture that supported both our personal and professional happiness. Collaborative ideas were validated and easily executed, sales and production goals were often exceeded and customer retention was increased, all resulting in greater revenue and more financial rewards for ourselves. I began with this area of respect because I am absolutely convinced that having it present counteracts and resolves many work related concerns.

The kind of fair and prioritized wisdom that values respect also leads to my next area, encouraging the acknowledgement of ideas. This definitely means more than just listening. Most of us would agree that women are generally more verbally communicative; one important aspect of this is that they tend to share more with those whom they feel particularly trusted and respected by. The reason this is of great importance in the workplace is because women are informed and active in many consumer activities with regularity on a scale that men are not, enabling them to control a large extent of our gross domestic product. A short visit to your local shopping center will attest to this obvious truth, while online retailers like eBay and Amazon are predominantly geared towards women. Given this, their creative input is a vital source of potential data and innovation only made useful when it is actually heard, validated and acted upon. Encouraging them to share their ideas will create benefit and a driven kind of unity when those ideas are acknowledged and incorporated into methods and production.

Our willingness to celebrate and reward collaborative efforts equally is the third area to consider. This creates a cultural shift recognizing and affirming the importance of men and women working together towards mutual goals. Up until recently the standard of inequality in the workplace ensured a competition between men and women that was rigged, offering a patronizing kind of encouragement that women still have not seen rewarded consistently in their paychecks. As we all recognize how our efforts are made meaningful, it’s time to really highlight our successes based on the first two areas above and transform those into changes that steadily reward women on an equal footing with men.

As technology advances, we are globally closer, resulting in greater competition in the marketplace. This also allows for information and dialogue about innovation, success and justice to be consistently shared publicly in a way that used to be more hidden, subverted and controlled. Online campaigns or reports can create a crippling boycott of a company with its head stuck in the sand regarding equality, whereas real-life success stories of companies that are embracing and visibly reaping the benefits of incorporating these three areas can create surges in growth for a business. In both the employment and consumer market, it’s easy to guess which company a woman would want to align herself with.

This is truly a time of the strongest being of true service, at least in regards to the marketplace. The sooner we encourage the greatest from each other the sooner we will attain untapped potential within ourselves and in the marketplace. We have to refrain from the subtle adverse mindset that a woman’s success means a man’s lack of success. In my last article, “Implicit Bias in the Workplace”, I mentioned our ability to include each other’s contribution was not a zero-sum situation. My hope is that we are all rewarded on our merit and nothing else. As men, if we are going to expect justice and fairness for our own grandmothers, mothers, sisters, aunts, nieces, and daughters, we are going to have to be an example in our own respective positions as we practice respect, acknowledge ideas and celebrate and reward our collaborative efforts with women to realize all of our greater advancement.The battles we fight together are the ones that will define us tomorrow.

Holiday Destinations for Single Men

Rio De Janeiro, Brazil

Made for: Fit men who can dance and who crave noise
The draw: 24 hour socializing and parties

Party Mecca for single men is Carnival, and Rio is its home base. Almost all year long, people in this city throw back the curtains for tourists. This is especially true for single guys who are extremely comfortable with leaving their self-loathing behind the moment the step off the plane. Festa (Portuguese for feast/celebration), is ingrained in Brazilian culture. In the ancient world, all roads led to Rome. In Rio, all roads lead to the beach, or a world class nightclub. There are the classics like Ipanema and the Copacabana, but other venues are becoming popular, especially if you have a favorite beach activity. Praia Vermelha is a surf hub, and Praia da Barra da Tijuca is famous for motor sports and parasailing. After working on the tan,go for dancing, drinks, and booty-watching at clubs like Leviano with its massive mosh pit, and Casa Rosa for laser-lit, edgy interaction. Rio might well be the perfect place for singles to holiday.

Bangkok, Thailand

Made for: Urban-oriented, tryst addicts
The draw: Food, adult entertainment, and more food

Men from all over the world find Bangkok to be a fascinating study in opposites. There’s no argument that adult entertainment in all forms is a major draw, but local laws and customs must be respected at all times. It’s absolutely possible to find any type of entertainment that you want, but it must be enjoyed on the culture’s terms. Bangkok is like a single traveller’s fantasy theme park, but definitely… ahem, lives up to its name. The people of Bangkok are exotic creatures in familiar westernized, U.S. and Euro-style packages. They are very accommodating to the expectations of single male tourists, and have the inviting currency exchange rate to boot. Restaurants like Xing Fu satisfy a guy’s stomach. Fitness and outdoor gyms help a guy retain his muscle tone while away from home. Elephant riding in the Khoa Yi National Park provides opportunities for selfies to make friends jealous. Adult clubs, lounges and hotel concierge like will certainly where out a single guy’s eyes (if not his entire body). As a single guy wrestles with the notion of settling-down in life, he can get the “wildness” out in this huge bachelor party of a destination.

Ibiza, Spain

Made for: History-lovers, mermen
The draw: Genuine locals, The Mediterranean

Ibiza is an island getaway steeped in old world culture including religion, sport, and cuisine. The deepest blue imaginable comes from an interface with the Mediterranean Sea, and the deepest brown is found in the eyes, hair and skin of some of Europe’s most alluring women making it the dream holiday for singles. A network of inviting villages each have town centers emerging from a catholic chapel like the Capilla de la Virgen de Lourdes, or a school or monastery. As far as social activities, anything having to do with playing on the sand or in the water is available. This area is very family friendly, so singles fun remains extremely intimate and low key. Single men should try offering a lonely local girl a glass of wine followed by a conversation on art, and a paddle board session afterward.

Get a Boyfriend Effectively

Get to Know Men Even Better

Once you already found a prospect who also shows great interest on you, give him the chance. Try to know him even better by talking to him. Nevertheless, make sure that you do not sound like you are hunting for a boyfriend. It will be an awkward thing on you, right? Guys may also start to stay away from once they notice that you are looking for a boyfriend that is why you mingle on them. Remember not to be deceived by their looks. There are so much interesting things from men apart from their physical appearance, of course.

Be Sure You Are Eyeing on a Single Man

If you do not want to get in any trouble, then you have to make sure that you are talking to a single man. If he is currently in a relationship, all of your hair strands might be pulled by his girlfriend. Can you picture out how embarrassing is that? You can observe his ring finger if he is already married, or simply ask him if he is currently in a relationship. Even so, you should do it without any amount of malice. Just try to be casual upon asking such question.

Mingle with Men

If men do not chase you, then why not chase after them. This does not mean that you have to do stalking on the guy that you really want. What is being pertained here is you should mingle with men. This is not as scary as you think it is. However, you have to remember that being fake will not bring you anywhere. You have to be yourself as much as possible. Have fun with men and show they who you really are. Just in case you don’t know, most men like those women who are not pretending to be somebody. They also love easy-going women, whom they can talk to with some interesting topics.

Avoid the Most Common Swinger Dating Mistake

There are three obvious options for closing and moving on to enjoy recreational sex:

  1. Simply proposing an immediate commencement of sex here and now
  2. Proposing to meet somewhere else at some other time to have sex.
  3. Agreeing a date to go to a swinger club or private sex party together.

Which one of these closes to go for will be in part dictated by the circumstances of the meeting. Foe example, the have sex here and now option is obviously not going to be available in most public meeting places. On the other hand, for a meeting taking place at a sex party, closing in this direct way is usually the best option.

Closing Sex Party Chat

Although you might think it is much easier to avoid the forgetting to close mistake when the chatting-up swingers at a sex party, it still frequently happens. Over many years of attending swinger parties I have witnessed countless examples of people letting golden opportunities to enjoy threesomes and foursomes slip by simply because they failed to close conversations.

Let me describe one very typical example of this situation. Two couples engage themselves in highly flirtatious conversation. Both females are dressed (or undressed) to thrill. Both couples, (male and female partners alike) make it absolutely clear they are genuinely enthusiastic about enjoying their first ever group sex experience. They are keen to do a full swap and the sexual chemistry seems right from all four perspectives. The simple thing would be to close the conversation with a straightforward proposal like, “Are we ready to try the playroom out then?” But instead of this happening, all four get sucked into extending the conversation until it begins to die and degenerate into something that is no longer exciting or flirtatious. At this point someone makes an excuse to move on and the chance of swinging has gone for good.

The majority of couples attending swinger parties are only interested in partner swapping sex. This fact makes it very likely that a single male who fails to close the conversation with a couple who enjoy MFM threesomes, could easily mean missing out on the only opportunity that the party offers. This being the case, the guy has not only blown his chances of swinging with the couple he has been chatting up but he has effectively blown the whole party and might just as well go home!